The number one pitfall that stops people from creating the change they desire is not having enough support. For lasting change, we must develop valuable and enduring support.
First step: Receive the support you are offered
Often we feel uncomfortable receiving support or anything from others. I empathize with how risky and uncomfortable it can feel to ask for support. Yet, we will not change without the help from others. Start building up your ability to receive by accepting it everywhere it is offered. What if all it took was a little vulnerability to get the support you need to reach your goal?
Over valuing our independence
We do not value our ability to garner personal support. The heros in our culture are athletes, musicians, movie stars, and CEOs who seemingly achieve success with acts of independence. Yet, each of them had a gaggle of support before they reached their level of success. What if you valued your goal more than your independence?
Actions show change
In our heads, on a good day, we are making huge strides and changing for the best. On a bad day, we think we are forever stuck in a rut. Real change doesn’t happen in our heads it happens in relationship. Transformation occurs with a witness, a supporter, a challenger that knows the big things you are doing. What would it be like to have someone who stands strong for what you are creating?
The right kind of support
Often we have friends that support us as cheerleaders. These friends have a valuable place in our life. Yet, cheerleaders aren’t sufficient to create they type of change we need. What if you had a relationship in which the other saw your brilliance, possibilities and gifts? This is what I call a Growth Partnership. It is a shared commitment where both parties equally support the other. By challenging you to strive, move forward, and go for what you want, they create an environment where you can fall and keep going. They hold steadfast to your goals and support you to grow into your biggest self! Read my guide on creating Growth Partnerships. Are you ready to get the support you need and evolve to your best self?